Friday, October 12, 2007

I am in a funk. My husband still isn’t home. He never actually gave me a date when he would be home - I just thought he would be here by now. Then I had a horrible experience at the salon last night which still has me angry. Combine the two and you have one pissed off, slightly hormonal basket case with a cute new haircut

The girl who cuts my hair knows about our situation – Clomid made my super straight hair curly and now Letrozole is making my stupid hair fall out. She was convinced I was pregnant when my hair started getting curly which is when I made the fatal mistake of telling her. I didn’t realize how fatal it was until last night.

Within the first 5 minutes of my haircut one of the other stylists joked that my stylist was pregnant – I missed why this was funny, but everyone laughed. She is 31 and just had her third child about a year ago. Apparently she thought it would be hilarious to say that she would sell her baby if she ever got pregnant again. Then when she realized what she said, or maybe saw the expression on my face, decided it was best to tell me everything bad about pregnancy – saggy boobs, losing hair, hot flashes, no sleep, etc. I told her I had 3 out of the 4 symptoms with just my fertility meds.

She also told me that I really hadn’t tried very long so I shouldn’t be discouraged because it took her a “long time” to get pregnant with her third. A “long time” to her meant 6 months of “kind of” trying. I didn’t feel the need to go back through the 18 months of trying including one miscarriage and 6 rounds of fertility meds. I realize that when someone is trying even 2 months seems like a long wait, but knowing my circumstances I figured she would be more sensitive.

I am losing my patience fast! Please husband, come home SOON … before I start getting violent!


Kristen said...

I am so sorry you had to endure that. It is amazing what cruel things people say and they just have no clue how hurtful they are. (((HUGS)))

And I love when people try to tell you all the bad parts of pregnancy. Like that will magically take away my yearning for a child...


In Search of Morning Sickness said...

I'm sorry your husband isn't home yet... That sucks.

Yeah, I can see why that was a horrible situation w/the haircut. I don't know if I'd return. I WISH people didn't feel like they had to offer advice... We don't need advise w/ infertility, we need a listening, non-judgemental, non-dismissive ear.

Katie said...

Oh, yes, the fertiles who try to make you feel better by telling you how "awful" it is to be pregnant and have a baby. I wish the poxes of pregnancy on them - including stretch marks and vericose veins in weird places!

I hope that your husband is home soon. This waiting is so hard on you.